Anyway, the question/link is this:
We as women are bombarded with images of what perfection should look like. And, if you're anything like me, it doesn't appear when looking in the mirror.
I spent a good ten minutes staring in the mirror, trying to look past all the flaws and imperfections and issues I wrestle with every day. I wanted to really SEE myself. It took me close to five minutes to decide on one facial feature that I consider quite beautiful.
Straight after a shower or after you've washed your face, take some time to really look at that woman in the mirror. What do you see that's beautiful? Ignore or re-evaluate those things that have always bugged or challenged you. What is your singular, personal element of beauty? Is it skin, ears, hair? Is it wisdom or humor or understanding in your eyes? We all have one thing that not only makes us individuals. That one thing makes us beautiful. What is yours and why?
Oh my, my, my, my...this is a can of worms ready to explode! Stare at yourself in the mirror and look PAST your flaws? Is this even possible?
Whoa people, we are dealing with a girl who has had a lifetime of fat girl syndrome. WHAT is it that is "beautiful" about me?
I see the acne scarred skin, the many freckles, the bad teeth that were permanantly "stained" when I was on pennicillin for a year, during which time I lost my teeth and they came back in (I was 6). So, the lines in my teeth are deeply in the enamel. There is NOTHING that can be done about those lines or the color of my teeth. Of course I see the scars, the stretchmarks, the flab. BUT, that isn't the exercise here. The JOB at hand is to find what IS beautiful?
After a great deal of consideration I came up with one thing physical and one thing internal.
Someone once told me that I have "eyes that could stop the world." Whatever that means. I think they were just trying to say....your eyes are beautiful.
I like that freckle (the pie shaped brown spot) in my eye. It is unique to me, and it's cool. (let us NOT judge the severe need for some eyebrow waxing, let's just NOT go there)
I was blessed with BIG, round eyes. My Mom constantly points this out, because she was NOT so blessed. They are good for expressing many emotions. They work great in performing. AND, whenever I may be feeling down on other aspects of my appearance, I can usually look at my eyes and think they look ok.
I truly believe the BEST feature I have is my humor. My wit and my snark. I love to laugh, but I really LOVE to MAKE people laugh. I'm grateful to have the gift of humor. 'Cause there are those in this world who don't have it, they just don't GET it. And for them....I'm sad. Laughter really does cure a lot of what ails ya.
Too bad I couldn't find ANY pictures of me laughing, or even really smiling big. But then again, probably better, since then you'd be seeing my teeth that I'm not a fan of. Ah what the heck, just go back and look at my "pretty" eyes.
And, since I'm me and I can't quit while I'm ahead. I will say that the last thing that I think is "beautiful" about me is:
Being a Mother to these beautiful kids!
Nothing makes me laugh more than them and the ridiculous things they come up with to say and do.
Yeah, being a Mother is definitely beautiful.